Dear Dave + April....a Tuesday Series

{we write letters each week to each other to enrich our marriage. we've come a long way. check out the full series on the sidebar on the right.}

Dear Ape,
So here we are another week and have kind of settled into a groove. Work, work, work, kids, work, then a few moments of "us" time. I really love the few moments we can have together even when we have to lock our bedroom door and ask the kids to give us just 5 minutes to catch up on all the days happenings. I think those 5 or so minutes are very important to being involved in each others lives. Many times we get caught up in what is going on around us and what is happening at work that we don't take time for us and it needs to happen. So thanks for making it happen. I read your blog when you were away last week and you said that you hummed a certain song all week, it made me think of a song that I think about sometimes. I remember we had bought a random CD with all kinds of different music on it in Walnut Creek. We were driving home and this song came on. We listened and had a long discussion about how people fall into ruts and drift apart. Do you remember? I love how these two people found out interesting things about each other after they thought their relationship was over. Ring a bell? Anyway it is a cheesy song from the 70's I think. It's called Escape or "the pina coloda song".

When you were gone I thought about this song and that we have had a great journey together and I am privileged to continue on this path with you. So there's my thoughts for this week. Now I have a challenge for the 3 people that read on Tuesdays. Listen to the song,(have a giggle..it's cheesy) and take inventory in your relationship and find out something new about him or her. What are they interested in today? You know what they liked 5 years ago but people change. Grow with them. Ask and then listen. You might find out that you like the new same things. I don't usually make challenges but I feel if I can do it you can to. Good luck, and its cool to talk to your wife about what you feel so don't be a knot head. Instead, tell her.
Love,
Dave






Dear Dave,
I love it! I love the challenge. I love the song. I remember that day in Walnut Creek. I remember you having to explain the song a bit to me and then telling me to listen really carefully. I smiled really big when I got the lyrics! I love our 5 minutes or so in the room when you get home from work too. I also love you coming home from work around normal work ending hours....not just before the kids go to bed. It gives us so much more quality family time which helps for a healthier relationship between me and you. I love also that you have completely taken the initiative to help more at bedtime without me having to ask. I have to admit that because you had helped Blake all evening with all his potty needs...when it was time for him to go to bed and he pulled on my sleeve I was happy to jump up and tuck him into bed. I actually felt lucky instead of bothered. Thank you! Let's just keep on keeping on. We're on a roll! I'm off to go check out your cheesy video and sing with it at the top of my lungs. I don't even care if I wake the kiddos.

Love,
me


Dave is somewhat new to blogging so he thinks that the people that comment are the only people reading. He keeps saying no one likes our dear dave + april and I keep assuring him that I get plenty of emails {not comments} from grateful readers, plus it still is benefiting us so much...we are no where near quitting it. But this week I have a favor to ask.....can we show Dave some love here in the comments?! He checks for them on his phone all day long. ;) Let's keep him busy today. Thanks!!

One more thing...if you are local and missed my craft camp announcement....the post is here!